To All Who Are Different… We Are The Same

Hi,

My name is Vivian and I am very new to the blogging world. I am the creator of Beaute’ De Livres – Beauty of Books, Book Blog & deciding to connect on line with others who have shared interests as me has honestly changed my life. Contributing to social media has allowed for my voice and thoughts to be heard and has also been a safe place where I can broaden my horizons, learn and contribute on topics of concern, that are very prevalent to today’s society.

 I signed up to twitter and not only developed an addiction but I very much was introduced to it as a platform where people are trying to make a difference. One of the main things that has stuck with me is an ongoing discussion of diversity in books, the need for authors to expand the diversity of their characters and also for us as readers to be encouraged to appreciate diversity in books.

 When we say diversity, the definition can be complicated or very simple. I am going to go with simple and explain that diversity means beyond the ‘norm’. pushing the boundaries and creating/promoting characters that have different cultural, sexual, racial and religious backgrounds, to those that are normally portrayed.

 Now I am not going to sit here and lie and say that I have always made the choice to support diversity and expand my literary experiences by only seeking for books with diversity. I am going to admit to indifference. I want to make this clear, I have never, nor will I ever be judgmental or contribute negatively to any form of diversity. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is of a different race, sexual orientation, culture or religion to myself. I am always the first person to defend people of a minority group and I would go even further to say that I am surrounded by many people who refuse to acknowledge positively or attempt to understand lifestyles that are different to their own and therefore ending up in many heated discussions trying to get people to understand.

 I recently had a child and there are so many things that I try to do differently but the things of importance to me are, that I want my child/future children to grow up in a world that is safe and understanding. I never want to contribute to their thoughts or choices negatively. I want their lives to be full of love and understanding so they know how to go into the world and reciprocate. I will not allow negativity and judgment to breed in my house because there is absolutely no room for it, in society.

I want to be a mother they know supports them no matter what. I will not lose my child/children because I am too ignorant to educate myself of the ways of the world. I will not lose my child/children because of society’s inability to be loving and supportive. I will not lose my child/children for anything, period.

 So as I mentioned previously, the online presence and advocating for diversity in books, mad me decide to expand my book choices – it was here that I stumbled upon two ARC novellas. One called Coffee Date by K. Lynn and A Boy called Sin by Cecil Wilde. Both these books were different yet similar in their topic – transgender. As I continue with my tirade of honesty I will admit that some of my terminology may be incorrect and I have no intention of being offensive. I apologise in advance for anything that may come off sounding uninformed and uneducated, because the truth is, that is exactly what I am.

 Just because I have no aversion to diverse groups or people in a minority group, does not mean that I know everything about anything. The reason I am writing this post is because I went to sleep with a heavy heart full of sadness at society’s choices to remain uniformed, be judgmental and unfortunately contribute and very much hold some responsibility for the unhappiness of many diverse people and minority groups.

 I read these books with no expectations and no knowledge of the content that they would hold. I was surprised by how much emotion it evoked within me and when reviewing the writing I was 100% impressed in both writers’ abilities to push the boundaries in their choice of topic, their dialogue between characters and the evolution of the story line.

 I am a very empathetic person, I work in the social welfare sector assisting students in high school; of course I am empathetic. There are others that would disagree (namely my family) but what they do not understand is for me there are different levels of empathy and what I am referring to in this situation is the empathy that takes you to a different world, brings you to your knees with pain, heartache or even happiness. Empathy that evidently changes you forever.

 Reading about people who are Transgender or Genderqueer following their journey, whether it be the struggle with their family, acceptance in society, financial struggle with gender reassignment treatments, finding love, being respected, loved and understood on the basic of human levels. And, of course the constant battle with their own mental health and self-esteem. It broke my heart – I then decided to take it even further and use my empathy to broaden my horizons not just to the characters in the books I was reading but to every person who has ever been misunderstood, ridiculed, judged… the list of negativity is endless. In saying that, I need to get this off my chest.

 TO EVERYONE THAT HAS BEEN MADE TO FEEL DIFFERENT…

I AM SORRY!

I AM SORRY I TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE LIFE I HAVE.

IAM SORRY THAT I DON’T APPRECIATE YOU’RE STRUGGLE.

I AM SORRY I BECAME INDIFFERENT.

I AM SORRY I DIDN’T TRY HARDER TO UNDERSTAND.

I AM SORRY I DIDN’T FIGHT THE CAUSE SOONER.

I APOLOGISE ON BEHALF OF ALL THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE AND CONTINUE TO TURN A BLIND EYE.

I AM SORRY FOR THE IGNORANCE OF THE WORLD.

I AM SORRY THAT PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE SUPERIOR.

I AM SORRY FOR ALL YOUR PAIN AND SUFFERING.

I AM SORRY..

 TO EVERYONE THAT HAS BEEN MADE TO FEEL DIFFERENT…

THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU 

YOU WILL BE THE POSITIVE CHANGE THE WORLD NEEDS. 

Much Love

 

V xx